After you lose custody, you will probably go all out to prove your innocence. After your case has progressed to the place where you were already proven not to be a danger to your children, you will probably wonder why custody has still not been given back to you. This is the time in your case when you will learn about “significant change in circumstances to modify a custody order”.
How the system messes up:
First, a judge will believe every horrendous allegation against you, and ‘for the safety of the children’ the judge will issue a quick and temporary custody order, while removing the children from you, or you from them. Then, you will probably get enraged and ask for fact-finding, or, proof about all those allegations. Sure enough, after a year or so in court the fact finding will show that there is nothing on you, only a bunch of lies. By then, the judge will use the most ridiculous excuse that family courts ever created; “we don’t want to upset the status quos with the children, seeing that they are stable right now”. Say what?
Holes in this process:
- First, the judge traumatically separates the children from their mother
- Then, the judge declares them ‘stable’ in this environment
- Then, the judge decides that this is a status quos not to be changed
- Then, we all sit and wait for ‘extraordinary circumstances’ to warrant a change, such as – daddy needs to become an axe murderer.
This feels a bit like elementary school. Imagine that you misbehaved in class, so you get punished and made to stand outside of the class. The principal sees you there an hour later and asks you why you are outside. So you answer, “I misbehaved”. So the principal asks, “are you behaving now?” You say, “Yes”. So the principal says, “Good that means you belong outside”. Huh?
Welcome to the family courts of America.